Often when I am inspired to write about a given subject, my first thought is usually this is so obvious, why would anyone not think this idea is common knowledge. I believe that what I write about is common knowledge, what is missing is the recognition that the paradigms have shifted into the realm where each individual must consciously recognize and choose a different way to relate to others. I am certainly no expert in the ways of successful friendships, as I have spent the good part of the last 7 years in self-imposed seclusion from the greater society. This is an expression of my observations as I weave in and out of my community.
I have been noticing lately that although I feel a definite and definable shift in people and our collective consciousness, as individuals we must begin to shift our unconscious ways of being. Lack of individual intention is causing us to be dragged down and kept in a mode of denser vibration, much like throwing a fishing line with the intention of hooking a savory tuna and instead having the line dragged and even snapped by the dredge of trash previously dumped. We are fishing for joy only to continually hook and pull up unresolved issues and be trapped into a cycle of unconscious repetitive trends. As I begin to prepare myself to reenter society and begin to form new relationships I am diligently looking at what is the cause of my unease.
I was in the locker room at my gym, as I noticed two women in conversation. One woman who was leading the conversation sat somewhat slumped as she appeared to have come to the gym before showering for her day, she was clearly an attractive woman, but clearly not at her best, (for social interaction), she spoke low and slowly her demeanor was submissive and slightly depressed as it appeared she was revealing parts maybe she was unsure of. The woman listening I would gage was the same age range and considerably overweight, her demeanor, I need, pay attention to me and give me energy. The energy shifted as I am sure the smaller woman sensed this and she began to tell the other one all the great things in her daughters life even though just before she revealed some sorrow over the distance between them. This I could see was a defense over the large woman taking her energy. The small woman talked about her son in law and what a great artist he was, the large women interjected that she too was an artist and began creating a scenario for herself to create great art. Near the end as the small women was ending the conversation in how great it was to run into this woman the large woman made a point to comment on how small she was and if any of her children were as short as her, clearly a tactic to take energy, and a veiled put down. This conversation continued in the lobby and the feeling around these people was one of complete inauthenticity on both sides, as the group lacked energy and any sense of joy in there meeting, as their words did not match the emotions expressed.
I am sure that each of us has had similar feelings in interactions in our daily life. The question to ask is how does this type of inauthentic interaction not only affect me, how does it serve the other? If we are to grow in consciousness we must begin to care not only for ourselves and our own, but to each and every being we come into contact with. If it was so great to run into this woman how did it serve her to allow this woman to glean her of her sacred space in order to validate herself. This is demeaning to the large woman to energetically say to her, “take my energy, you obviously need it”, instead of allowing her the space to develop her own energy from within. And why when this small woman was not up to pare did she further allow her energy to be exploited. And beyond these two seemingly separate women, to engage in an unjoyful interaction they are pulling on and draining the surrounding environment, which others are entering to build themselves up in. When you suppress joy it sends the message for all of those around you to also suppress their joy. Just look to the classes in the gym where members flock and then look to classes they do not gather abundantly. Invaribly the instructors they consciously make an effort to attend classes with are joyed filled self impowered and self aware individuals. I do not mean to give some sound alternative to this interaction as I am sure there are many possibilities that this inpromptu meeting could have been truly joyfilled, but a quick exchange of e-mails and a hug would have been a valid and very impowering and supportive alternative.
The real question is how can each one of us begin the sacred journey to an authentic and joyfilled life. Firstly what is your daily conscious intention? Is it to live a life that is truly worth living and what does that mean to you? Have you layed the ground work such as real self acceptance, the good the bad and the ugly. Have you handled the deep dark spaces such as addiction and flagrant patterns that just don’t work. Are you able to take responsibility for all of it. Can you love yourself and others in spite of seeming imperfections. Can you forgive and let go even when the thing that seems to cause dispare keeps popping up, can you keep erasing any and all harms against you and by you.
You can develop an over all intention for your life and each and every day in each segment of your day state the intended purpose even if the purpose is to have no purpose other than to let go and experience the mystery in beautiful ways. Intend a sacred life even in the less than sacred moments. Remember sacred jumble up is scared. Don’t be scared by seeming appearances, state and continually affirm what is wonderful and joyfilled. Say “I am the master of my domain and all of life rushes in to meet me in fresh and miraculous ways”. You deserve your deep passionate desires to be fulfilled and the way to have this is to stop entertaining thoughts that do not match your desires. If someone is a nuisance stop thinking of them in that way. Create them in the way that matches your desire. Stop blaming others for your problems and start creating them as the solution. Love and forgive all wrongs, be free to be completely in love and in joy. This is the answer to stop entertaining others in dark ways.
In conclusion I cannot express deeply enough that we must develop a library of deeply luscious and mystical desires. To live is to be alive with vibrant enthusiasm of the miraculous. No dream and fantasy with the intention of, “for the good of all no hurt or harm to anyone”, is too fantastic. I learned many years ago that to desire is the key to an abundant life. I work daily to expand my ability to desire and also to develop within me the belief that my desires are manifest according to my belief. To believe with all of your heart that you are beautiful you are wonderful and the universe weeps in deep love and awe of you is the truth of your being. I love all of you and vow to continue walking the authentic path to love and freedom as I express my joy in seeing you and respecting your and my own sacred space.